how not to break things off with someone

You certainly don’t email them saying, I know we talked about making a date but I don’t think we should because I think you and your ex wife have some unfinished business.

 

What the hell was I thinking?  Oh wait, I remember that I was thinking “Wine, you are so very tasty.”  Needless to say I was greeted with an email full of question marks and he accidentally admitted that he saw the email I had sent before this and just didn’t bother to answer it… oh, yea, and that he moved last week.  Yea, he MOVED and didn’t say anything to me about it.  I knew he was moving eventually but wow, he didn’t even ask for my help.  Oh, that’s right because she helped him move.  He then had the nerve to say we could go out Thursday and “Give a call later”.  Wait, is that I should call him or he’s going to call me? Yea, I’m not calling him.  If he wants to talk to me he can call me.

I emailed back something sort of snarky about how I don’t call my exs when I get good news and how his ex doesn’t call to talk to their kid she calls to talk to him.    He didn’t email me back.

It pretty much struck me then that my problem isn’t so much about him and his ex as it is that he just doesn’t tell me shit and how I mentally equate that with hiding something.  I get that some people just aren’t open but I don’t trust those people.  I should be more open minded after TGTBT who told me everything only it turned out that more than half of it wasn’t actually true.  I don’t feel secure, and even in a short term relationship I need to feel like the other person is being upfront.  Unless Mr. Chemistry can pull a rabbit out of his hat this is done.